Hope for a Young Child’s Future – part 1

When people hear my story, they ask how I made it to this point in my life. Circumstances dictate that I should be living on the streets doing who knows what. Many think I am strong. But I say it is not me. I am as weak as the next person. As I was learning to adapt and survive in an environment of neglect, and physical and sexual abuse, God was working in the lives and circumstances around me (John 5:17). He was my ultimate father, protector and provider.

Even though my mother and father were alcoholics, God still provided my father with enough sense to know that he needed to buy food and pay the rent so we didn’t end up on the streets. Yes, for years I was terrified because we had to share a bathroom with the strangers next door and because rats would run across the room when we turned on the lights, but as a child growing up in a poor inner-city neighborhood, you just accept that as normal.

Even though my mother was schizophrenic, she knew enough to get up from her chair in the corner of the living room once in a while to cook balanced meals for me, my sister, and brother. Granted, they never threw us birthday parties and my hand-me-down clothes were out of style, but my parents made sure we were fed, clothed, warm, and safe—to a point.

I have forgiven my parents for their neglect because I know they were sick and, considering the circumstances, I am thankful none of the physical and sexual abuse I endured came from their hands. However, I was a target because I did not have adults in my life to tell me I could say no to inappropriate behavior or protect me from the boy across the street with the hammer. It is alarming to know what awful things children can do to one another.

As you can imagine, because of their addiction and my mother’s mental illness, I never knew the warmth and smells that most people experience from the embrace of a parent’s hug and never knew the security and joy that comes from the tender sound of a parent saying “I love you.”

So, back to the question, how did I make it to this point in my life? Experts will tell you that a child cannot survive without love. Well, He who is love (1 John 4:16) was drawing me to Himself (Romans 8:30) and showed me love through teachers, people in the church, and the one time I can remember being comforted in my grandmother’s arms.

As Paul goes on to say in Romans, chapter 8, nothing can separate me from the love of God. This was the hope I would need to rely on throughout my childhood and teenage years. That is where I will begin next time.

Intro: A Drive I Didn’t Expect

As I was driving along during a two-hour trip to be with a good friend at her mother-in-law’s funeral, I wondered why I felt compelled to make the long trip on a day when there was so much I could check off my to-do list at home. To top it off, so many things got in my way that morning that I really thought I wouldn’t be able to make it to the funeral on time. As I pressed forward through wardrobe malfunctions and other mishaps that morning, I was tempted to ask “why is satan trying to keep me from going?” or “should I not go because something bad is going to happen?” But I wasn’t going to let fear stop me. One of the greatest things I have learned is that nothing is more important than relationships (Romans 12:10). Therefore, truth prevailed. My friend wasn’t expecting me, and didn’t need me, but I knew that being there would show her how much I care about her. Instead of giving up on the idea of going to the funeral, I punched the address into my GPS and was surprised to see that it said 10:02 a.m.  Since it was a Saturday morning, I knew I could get there within those two extra minutes.

Yes, during the trip, I kept my eyes opened to make sure nothing bad would happen. But instead, God surprised me. He used that span of time to impress upon me that it was now time to start writing this blog. This is something He has been impressing upon me for the past couple years (1 Cor. 2:9-11).

Having listened to the stories of hundreds of women, and after walking with them through their painful experiences, made me aware of our common struggles and the doubts we have—but don’t feel safe to share with one another. In this blog, I will talk about some of these issues through my own experiences.  My hope is that these real-life stories and lessons will be an encouragement to you and will give you the courage to reply with stories of your own. I know God uses the weak things in life to bring himself glory (1 Cor 1:27) so what more can I do but step out and testify to what He has done in my life. This is only an introduction to my story. I will start from the beginning in my next blog.

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